Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Taken

Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. Seems simple enough, but do you really know who you are? Until we awaken from our collective trance, we are a collaboration of everyone we have come into contact with since the day we were born. We are born into the matrix and the matrix tells us what to think, speak, feel and believe. Underneath the mask and the costume, off-stage, there is a soul. That soul spark is a unique expression of YOU.

How do we find out, who “I am”? It starts from looking at yourself from a place of unconditional love. From there, there is no judgement or criticism, only observation. We begin to observe our thoughts, our behaviors, and our feelings. We begin to ask, are these my thoughts, or do they belong to someone else or to the collective?

Chances are most of the thoughts in your head are not yours. We are antennae and we pick up the thoughts of people around us. For example, someone walks by thinking “I’m fat”.  Our antennae brain perceives that thought when they walk by. All that thought needs is an opening or an anchor (a matching thought) in YOUR head, such as “I’m fat” to attach to and settle into your awareness. Since we already have that program running, anyone around us who thinks “I’m fat” re-iterates that in ourselves.

If we do not have that program running, when a person comes around with the thought of “I’m fat”, we do not even perceive it because it had nothing to anchor into our reality. Asking, “who does this thought belong to?” throughout the day may help you to realize that some of your daily thoughts are coming from you and some are coming from the collective (such as from the news, television, magazines, books) or from others who are in your vicinity.

Once you begin sorting through your thoughts, slowly rid yourselves of the negative ones. Remember, who programmed these thoughts into you anyway? Who decided what “fat” is? Who decided what “pretty” is? This is where loving yourself unconditionally comes in, so you can observe your thoughts from a neutral perspective and begin to change them.

Many of our thoughts come from our subconscious, making it more difficult to root out the negative programs. Find the original source of that thought. Did it come from something a parent said? Was it their subconscious programming that was passed onto you in unawareness? Did your friends think those thoughts so you decided that you should think them too?

Secondly we observe our behavior. Our behavior tells us about ourselves. We can deny our thoughts all we want, but we cannot deny our behavior. Usually we have an audience for this, and can just ask our friends and family about it. Observe your own behavior for patterns. What are your routines? Are they yours or are they adopted from a parent or loved one? Are you always running late? Do you tend to overeat? Do you even know why? Do you storm out of a room each time there is an argument? Does that solve the argument?

Begin to analyze your behaviors from a neutral perspective and make changes where needed. Perhaps you are using your behavior in the place of real communication with another at home or at work. Be in command of your behavior and take responsibility for it. No one can “make” you do anything except you, and that kind of thinking gives our power away.

Thirdly, we can observe our feelings. Being objective here is a bit trickier, but necessary for healing. Our feelings tell us everything, if we only listen. Get in touch with them, live with them, delve into them, find their origin.  For example, “I feel angry when my spouse doesn’t call during the day”. Let’s look at this. Is the person busy working? Are they purposefully not meeting your needs somewhere else in life, and that shows up as anger when they don’t call. Do you feel that they are cheating on you, and instead of addressing that, you are angry about a daily phone call? Is there a past relationship where this happened and the person was distrustful or inattentive? Perhaps you were left alone often as a child and your parents never checked in to see if you were okay. Look to the feeling and work to trace it back to it’s origin. Heal that original wound so you can begin to feel good again and be in the present moment.

The purpose of this inner work is to figure out who you are and who you are not. By observing your thoughts, behaviors, and feelings, you can get a clearer picture of who you are right now. You can decide what you like about yourself and what you would like to change. You are a unique expression of consciousness underneath all that programming. When you begin to see yourself for who you are, and begin to love that person unconditionally, your light will shine ever brighter. Give yourself a big hug for even wanting to better yourself and your life.